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Why can't we all just get along
Can't or won't let go
The seemingly insignificant thing which causes the inability or unwillingness to endure any more of the burden.
Q I am single, never married, have a good career, and hold four academic qualifications through a university. I enjoy working with people on a professional level.
Five years ago I met Mr. X while traveling to work, and we became friends. At first he did not tell me he was married. A friend told me. When I questioned him, he admitted it, saying they were separated. I was also told the wife keeps coming and going in his life.
After about a year, I had no more calls from Mr. X. When I investigated, I found the wife was back again. I decided to move on, and when I was fine, received a call from Mr. X saying she moved out. He promised not to take her back, so again we got together.
However, he refused to go out in public. All he wanted to do was book a room and chat about his situation. After much complaining by me, we went to a movie. He would not walk alongside me, and even in the cinema he sat as if being watched.
He forgets my birthday, and when I am writing exams he does not even inquire on the result. In May, he stopped calling. Now he wants to come back to me as his wife is moving out again. I am tired of this situation, but I do not know what to do.
Serena
ter much complaining by me, we went to a movie. He would not walk alongside me, and even in the cinema he sat as if being watched.
He forgets my birthday, and when I am writing exams he does not even inquire on the result. In May, he stopped calling. Now he wants to come back to me as his wife is moving out again. I am tired of this situation, but I do not know what to do.
Serena
A Serena, some things in relationships are as clear as the multiplication tables. You say three things about Mr. X. He won't take you out in public, he won't introduce you to friends, another woman keeps appearing in his life.
Any number multiplied by zero is still zero. Three times zero is zero. If this was a question on an exam, you would know the correct answer.
Wasting time trying to revise the multiplication tables prevents you from finding the correct answer and the correct man.
Wayne & Tamara
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Q My name is Rosemary and I have a question for you. What is the difference between dating someone and seeing someone in a dating sense?
Rosemary
A Rosemary, what is the difference between having a boyfriend and not having a boyfriend? Sounds like someone is giving you a confusing answer to a simple question.
Simply put, anything less than dating is not dating.
Don’t date anyone who speaks in riddles.
Wayne & Tamara
When is the gap insurmountable?
Invade – to enter as if to take possession, to intrude upon.