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Cheating in a Nutshell

What Infidelity Does to the Victim

“Start here. This is the BEST book I've read about recovering from infidelity.”
“I can't emphasize enough how much this book helped me after my marriage to a cheater.”
“A book based on research, case study, and actual science which gives the greatest degree of insight into what actually happens to a betrayed individual.”
“This is a must read for anyone experiencing infidelity in their relationship. Wayne and Tamara offer clear and straightforward advice for those suffering from the betrayal of a partner.”

Whatever shade of infidelity you’re dealing with, it is powerfully painful – and the feelings that come with it are hardly ever simple. You feel betrayed, devastated, embarrassed, angry, and completely heartbroken.

Maybe the infidelity was a one-time thing that happened during a drunken evening… or it may have been intentional—weeks, months, or years of romantic dinners, phone calls, and of course, sex. Perhaps it involved one-nights stands with various partners or a deeply emotional connection with one other person.

You ask yourself, “How can I stop infidelity from ruining my life? ”or “How do I cope with this nightmare?”

First, you need to know why the pain response is there and why you feel as you do. Until then, it will be difficult for you to move on. Understanding your pain will change your way of thinking almost immediately.

In Cheating in a Nutshell, Wayne and Tamara Mitchell explain the source of your pain.

This book is for you if:

  • You just learned your partner has cheated on you.
  • If you are staying with a cheating partner and now realize things cannot be restored.
  • If you were betrayed in a past relationship and seek a deeper understanding of what happened.


You need to know there is a way out of this darkness, and the first step is to shed light on the issue and understand the structure of this awful experience.

Discover why Cheating in a Nutshell: What Infidelity Does to The Victim is better than traditional books. Get your copy today.

The Friendship Solution

Making Friends and Dropping Frenemies

"I had goosebumps. This was so true, to the point...."
"Wow! This is a page from my life."
"I love the section on how to get rid of a friend, with a list of the possible ways. Great section. I love it."
"Hard to tear myself away. That in itself, is my comment."

This book is for you if need help deciding which people belong in your life as friends, and which people are actually frenemies, who should not be in your life.

From the prepublication reviews…

–“I’m sleeping better after reading this book.”

–“I like how thoughts run into each other. They form a cohesive explanation. You come by it so simply. I imagine many people stop and think: They express what I have thought all along, but could not put into words.

Hard to tear myself away. That in itself, is my comment.

One day, as we were reading an email to our advice column Direct Answers, Tamara looked up and said simply, “She doesn’t know what a friend is.”

That line—she doesn’t know what a friend is—has come back to us again and again as we read letters about a problem with a friend. Although we didn’t realize it at the time, that is how The Friendship Solution began.

We wrote this book for two reasons.

First, when many people use the word “friend,” they are actually describing a frenemy, a person they dislike, a rival or an antagonist, or a person who manipulates them. They are not talking about a true friend, someone they know and like, someone they can trust to have their back.

Understanding this distinction is one of the keys to having a good life. But understanding this distinction is not enough. We must act on it.

That is the second purpose of this book. We want to explain why we need to sort people out based on where they should fit in our life.

Some dictionaries define a friend as someone we know well and like, exclusive of sexual or family ties. In this regard, dictionaries are behind the times. More and more, psychologists are seeing our friends, family, and romantic relationships not as fundamentally different but as tributaries of the same river.

That is why when we speak of friends in this book, we include traditional friends as well as relatives and romantic partners.

The Friendship Solution is about the place of friendship in all our relationships. It is about why we have friends, what a good friend is, learning to say no, and letting go of bad friends.

Through letters and research, we will paint a portrait of friendship as it is and as it should be.

Finally, this book is a long answer to a short letter, a letter we got on the day Tamara looked up from an email and said, “She doesn’t know what a friend is.”

Age Difference Relationships

When Is the Gap Insurmountable?

“I found the book up-lifting. That is, reading it made me feel encouraged and happy — it lifted my heart.”
“I'm endlessly fascinated to read other people tell about their conundrums and experiences. It's fun -- and yet, before I know it, I find I have more insight into people's problems and motivations, including my own.”
“I love the case-study approach, because it's just plain interesting to read the letters.”

In Age Difference Relationships: When Is the Gap Insurmountable, authors and relationship columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell draw on over 20 years of providing life-changing relationship advice.

When you start dating someone new, there is a list of things you must consider: attraction, personality, values. Still, the one thing you may have overlooked is, what if there is an age difference?

Studies have shown that over 75% of married couples are within 5 years of each other, so there are important things to consider when entering an age-gap relationship.

Wayne and Tamara provide many case studies and letters from people who are in your situation to provide you with experience and inspiration for making your relationship work.

Through these case histories, you will experience what we all experience, our awakening from crushes and infatuation to true love and relationship success. In this influential age gap relationship book, you will learn:

  • Is age really just a number when it comes to relationships?
  • How to deal with scrutiny from others, especially your family and friends. It can be especially tough for young women dating older men to tell their parents about their new boyfriend
  • The 3 most important principles essential to an age gap romance
  • The most important issues an age gap couple needs to address together