This Week - My Daughter
I am divorced. Visitation with my daughter has been a nightmare. My ex-wife takes me to court twice a year trying everything she can to keep me from seeing my child. I thought this would pass. We are both remarried, but this behavior of hers continues.
There is absolutely no legitimate reason why I shouldn't be able to have a relationship with my daughter. To make matters worse, the judge is a female with a reputation as a man-hater. It's always the same thing in the courtroom; my ex-wife puts on the "poor pitiful me" show every time. I'm tired of wasting money on attorney's fees, not to mention being ordered to pay hers.
Marc, your ex-wife is attempting to erase you from her past. She is acting as if your child is hers with another man.
There are several things you can do short of paying more to an attorney. First, maintain a consistent attempt to see your daughter. Send cards, make calls, and show up. That accomplishes two things: it shows your determined mindset, and it may wear down your ex-wife and her new husband into letting you have reasonable visits.
Second, make sure your daughter knows how much you want to be in her life. Start a scrapbook and keep it in a positive light. Record memories of your visits with her, save copies of the cards you send and pictures of gifts you give. Bring a camera on visits and take pictures.
What our children most want is proof that we have never stopped loving them and never stopped wanting to be in their lives. What your daughter will most value in the future is the knowledge that you have been rooting for her all of her life.
Wayne & Tamara
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