This Week - Ear to The Ground
I've been married 35 years to the same woman. We dated since we were 15, and she was a stay-at-home mom until the kids grew up. I've never hidden anything from her. Everything I own including bank accounts and rental property is in both our names.
In the past few years she's started to save her paycheck in a separate account under her name only. She defends it saying she's heard some women in a divorce are shortchanged and she wants to protect herself.
I've never done this, and I don't think it's fair. Perhaps she has plans she is not telling me about.
Philip, when a tire is losing air, at some point you have to pull it off the car, dump it in a tank of water, and find the leak.
"What's yours is ours, and what's mine is mine" isn't fair. Your wife wants private money for what? Gambling, secret credit cards, another man… Is she saving for an Alaskan cruise for the two of you? Or does she merely want something to call her own?
Relationships don't thrive when placed under a microscope, but because you haven't both agreed to this you need to find an explanation. Take an unobtrusive look around and listen for the sound of hissing air.
Wayne & Tamara
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