This Week - Been There, Done That
I have been in a relationship for two years. I am 38, he is 49. I have older children and am also a grandmother three times over. I would love for us to have our own family, but he is totally against it. He will not explain why.
Neither of us has to work so we have plenty of time to spend raising a child. I have to say it really hurts and is very confusing. I don't understand how a man can have a child with someone they can't stand and not have a child with someone they are in love with.
I like to do what I can to make him happy, so why is the feeling not mutual? We have a great relationship, and I think adding another child to the family would make it even stronger. Is that so wrong?
Keely, Shakespeare said, "One man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages." A 49-year-old man may think fatherhood belongs to an earlier age of his life, and that is especially true when the woman he is with is a grandmother three times over.
He may also believe he cannot explain his feelings without insulting you. He may think you are simply bored or trying to compete with your own daughters. Whatever his feelings, they are as valid as your own.
Wayne & Tamara
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